The world has moved to right leaning leaders, we should learn from the signs; if not got it right from the beginning; right yourself right now: right diet, right thoughts, and right behavior
OK… first balance the life style… positivizing thoughts, correct diet & behavior which is in right alignment with our right leaning thoughts
Yoga, exercise, meditation, balanced diet, good sleep all helpful in this rightful mission to healthy lifestyle
In childhood we used to be naturally happy/ we had the tingling sensation of life, as we grew up we sought the Kick from outside ( Addictions/Drugs/ Alcohol/ Bone Breaking Adventures/ Significant Other/ Earning Top Dollar/KIds) & also tried keeping up with the joneses (damn those joneses – they keep on getting better at everything)
Harmony is what we seek next – we can’t leave the stuff we accumulated- we hold on to it rather than it holding on to us & simultaneously try all the latest fads … including reading such posts. But do not let down our own expectations; basically in this phase we are trying to be James Bond (at least I am)
No instant redemption
Then we find that the world’s happiest human is a meditator
By such time we have overworked our mind & it is unwilling to try the simplest of new stuff
Then we give up to the higher intelligence & lo & behold … life is simpler … we realise much is not in our hands & whatever there is just do your best… GRIM to GRIN
The fill in the blank health problem can be treated
Whosane??
Fear of unknown stops us from seeking help
Hiding it turns it into a worse problem
A fill in the blank qualified health professional shall just talk, if required, run some checks. May recommend medication.
Caregivers role is paramount in helping, advising, ensuring right decision making, correct administration of medication
Hospitalization is last resort
The give away- Counselling (To improve how we react: Solve issues /change thinking or behavior)
To cope with problems + make one capable of coping themselves : Giving fish Vs teaching fishing
Help is all around us in terms of our near/ dears or if you want to make it professional then also
Try on your own but if not improving; take help
Do watch your mind while you watch others
Mind affects the body & Vice Versa
Hence, Yoga (Done with complete concentration & mentally being present in the organs being tensed) is so effective
Various negative emotions viz. anger, jealousy, rat race induced pressures, hatred, unhappiness, lots of unknowns leading to issues will worsen the physical ailments or bring on their early onset
Some of our (modern) diseases viz. hypertension, tummy upsets, heart diseases, asthma, diabetes, ulcers have some mind related links
Anyone can help instill hope
Be your Brother’s keeper
Accept the person unconditionally, give time & care
Be calm yourself
Words are all we have
Proverbial light at end of tunnel
Tough times vs tough people
Work/ Relationship/ Economics/ Loneliness/ Alcohol/ Nuclear Family/ Media/ Peer Pressure/ Illness/ Unforeseen stuff: These happen to everyone: How We Perceive/ React to things
EVERY PROBLEM HAS A SOLUTION
What the people who have seen more years say : if only we had faced problem with more faith in ourselves; looking back it was not such a big deal- so there is a broader perspective to be considered
Spiritual perspective: One should not take what one cant give: we can’t give life, we have no right to take it {even our own}
Also, most of things in life are on auto mode ( thankfully) viz. body growth: you need not take care of them; you only need to take care of your reaction/ feelings/ emotions to them. Hustle all you can but without the mental burden. It will all turn out well
be Thankful
Suicide among adolescents (15-25Yrs) has a very high rate
Self harm & destroying outside things are attempted; suicide is a cry for help; person is ambivalent between choice to live & die
Warning signs of suicides:
How to prevent suicides
Deep dive into adolescence related problems
Adolescence a time of physical & mental changes: adaptive capability & coping mechanisms can be overwhelmed by the pace of changes
Leading to
Irrational fears, emotional breakdowns, abuse of drugs, disturbances in sleep/appetite, loss of self-esteem/ confidence, over time can develop into serious mental diseases
Emotions ( hormones fooling around) can run amock
May be transient or may persist for long periods
Moodiness/ vacillating between swinging moods; changes can be stressful ( CHEMICAL LOCHA)
SOLUTION : MEDITATION which requires Pranayama which requires physical control (YOGA)
Challenges too much: we run away- not solving problem- mental dejection- arguments seemingly convincing- weak excuses/false arguments- Happens many times in life: failures/ disappointments; faced problem with more faith in ourselves; remake the inner personality whole & strong at that moment
Science of personality reconstruction: confusions in socio economic fields, unbridgeable generation gap, lack of purposeful goal anywhere, confusions in mind: the youth need a firm anchor otherwise productivity ruined & ambition thwarted
Old Indian Saying: Jaisa Khao Ann, waisa hove Mann ( So take care of what you eat & from where)
Defiance/ hostile behavior/ losing interest in activities/ acting in bizarre manner signs of an adolescent under stress & requiring all help as he/she cannot handle the problem on their own
Identity problems/ changes in personality/ mood disorders/ substance abuse/ disinterest in school/ leaving school
Very important role of near & dears/ teachers to identify the signs such as
& seek help from trained persons
Otherwise the persisting problem can lead to
Already due to the rapid pace of life & changing values; adolescents can feel alienated, helpless & confused
Friends can change rapidly during this period based on the perceptions of being in the inner group of the popular kids or feeling of inadequacies
Drugs : Abuse & addiction
Instant high in an otherwise boring life
Part time Heaven at the expense of misery & hellish death
Can be inhaled or injected
Natural drugs known to mankind: Cannabis & Opium
Medicinal drugs: Opioids & Tranquilizers
Recreational drugs: Alcohol/ Tobacco/ Tea & coffee
Synthetic: Morphine & Heroine
Drug Abuse is Occasional & habit forming then it leads to dependence which is compulsive
It has to be that good that people are willing to give their lives for it or is it
Drugs have reached the hinterland so not only a urban problem
Reasons for taking drugs
Drugs give a high then one has to take higher doses to get the same highs
Dizziness/ trembling/ pains/ diminished metabolism (physical symptoms of long term use)
Changes in personality/ Carelessness/ attention deficit/ neglect of responsibility (mental symptoms of long term use)
Effects
Early stage detection by near & dears is important to not let the problem get bigger
Deaddiction/ Rehabilitaion is answer
But detoxification is initial stage real challenges lie in managing withdrawl symptoms
The caregivers ( friends & family + society have a major role to play)
For family having young kids/ adults, elders need to
The adolescents need to
Alcohol
Socially accepted way of letting hair down & loosening the tongue
The size of the drink needs to increase over time for the same kick
Potentially addictive
Is it as good as it is made out to be
Can alter mood but can be addictive
Alcohol abuse is when the amount ( varies from person to person) consumed is excessive & craving/ deriving pleasure from same
To achieve samepleasure more & more quantities are required
Socially accepted so easily available & tendency to have it socially & escape mechanism from stress = vicious circle
How to become an alcoholic:
Start drinking excessively & don’t stop drinking till you lose all control & make a joke out of yourself
It does not happen overnight; starts with a thought- always assuming this time I will stop in time Issues with Alcoholism
Absenteeism/ performance/ sexual life impaired/social life impaired
Social life starts to suffer/ Family embarrassment/ Occupation hazard: Small thought/ fun derived/ small peg/ habitually evenings/ necessity/ larger pegs/ all the time/ Craving/ Unable to do without it ( Morning drinking indicative of dependence)
2 pegs a day 4-5 days a week: Anything over this is an abuse of alcohol
At this stage person has to take a drink to avoid symptoms of withdrawal (tremors/ vomiting / aches / pains)
Effects of alcohol manifest after 5-10 years
Excessive drinking causes harm to all organs of the body
Psychological Disturbances due to drinking
Effects on children if father/ mother alcoholic: Child becomes aloof from father
Women roles at home effected (Pregnant time drinking is linked to babies having attention deficit disorders)
Crux of Treatment is MOTIVATION
Can DO (withdrawal symptoms shall be taken care of by doctors)
Need moral support that they can again become productive members of society
Need our affection, consideration & understanding
No one else can help you- they can only help to help you
AA
Restart due to overconfidence
Reduce- Dilute- YNWA- Interests- the company you keep- physically away from regular spots
Tobacco/ Cigarettes
Can cause CANCER/ DEATH
We don’t fear death- we are afraid of living
Available everywhere/ macho image/ habit
NICOTINE: Slow Poison
Becomes part of our Daily Routine
But is it as good as is made out to be
Portugese brought it tobacco to India during Akbar’s rule & we have taken it to heart- making up for all the lost millennium: chewing( zarda/ Guthkha/ Khaini) ; smoking/ snorting
Starting: usually friends/ school/college/ need to belong/ peer pressure/ adolescence/ curiosity/ role models
Continued Use: Habit formed
Losing out on Health & Money
The End
The cure for smoking has been advanced but it comes in form of cancer
How to stop: (Easier said than done)
But such is human nature; what can be started can be stopped; only cancer cells never learn to stop
Hang out with the non –in crowd
Out of sight out of mind
Discretion is better part of valor; don’t fight just remove yourself physically from the situation
Meditate & learn to relax
If you are living in any major city your filthy air needs are already supplied by society; need not smoke
Make the choice to quit
Believe & Achieve
Project a mental image of you as a tobacco free healthy person
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